I found out today that my divorce is final. Someone in black robes finally signed the stack of papers, the County Clerk filed it, and an attorney mailed me a copy which was in my mailbox this afternoon.
I was surprised to not feel much today. I guess I felt a little relieved to close a very unpleasant chapter of my life and be able to move on. After almost six months of dealing with a lot of anguish, I think most of the pain is behind me. I can now look to the future and truly focus on being a good dad and a good person. Although I anticipate having some painful moments ahead of me, I really think I am approaching the asymptote. I’ll never get to zero pain but I will continue to get closer and closer to zero.
I am incredibly thankful for the huge amount of support that I received from family, friends, and my employer. I managed to get though my ordeal in good psychological and physical health.
Thank you everyone.
6 responses so far ↓
1 kdw // Jul 23, 2009 at 10:37 pm
Love you. That is all.
2 cajunvegan // Jul 23, 2009 at 10:39 pm
For what it is worth, you are a good dad and a good person. A new chapter begins. Turn the page, and jump right in.
Love you.
3 That Chick. // Jul 23, 2009 at 10:40 pm
Having that piece of paper really helps you to feel like the door is closed tight. I hope that you and your ex-wife can keep a even pace for the kids as you go about with your separate lives.
Take a deep breath, put away the envelope, and close the drawer. Tomorrow is a new day and brings new adventures.
4 Jackie // Jul 24, 2009 at 5:58 am
You truly are a good man, and a good person. The pain never goes away, it just dulls, with time.
Concentrate on those beautiful children, and enjoy life. Remember: Life is Short, Play hard!
Have fun camping, and always know your family cares!
5 Mark // Jul 26, 2009 at 3:28 pm
Dave,
You’ve taken the high road on this, and although, as you say, the pain will never completely go away, it will diminish. You, and the kids, will benefit from your graciousness and acting with class. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
6 Beetles In The Bush // Aug 29, 2009 at 8:28 am
20 years ago this month, I was divorced. I had completely forgotten that fact until I ready this post. As painful as it was at the time, my life has changed so much since then that I rarely think about it anymore. I used the experience to set a positive direction for my life, and now when I do think about her, I seem to just remember some of the good times we had.
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